Disability and sex: the ultimate guide to sex toys

Disability and sex: the ultimate guide to sex toys

Last week, our resident disability and sex expert Tuppy, gave you her top tips on how to enjoy sex, no matter what your disability. This week, we’ve asked her to give a rundown of the best sex toys for people with a wide range of disabilities.

How can I enjoy sex and what toys are out there to help me? These are questions I hear all the time, from disabled people with a variety of impairments. So, I’ve rounded up the top sex toys that can lend a helping hand.

Using a section from our School of Sex for Disabled People website (yet to go live), these toys can support disabled people who have difficulty with masturbating solely on their own, to have orgasms using sex toys. This could be through tucking them into their pants, placing them on top of erections, or strapping them on. Not all of these toys will be right for everyone, but I there is a wide range to choose from.

In the table, you’ll see information on each sex toy’s key features, and whether it is suitable for:

  • ‘assisted masturbation’ – where once the toy is put in place and turned on, either by yourself or someone else, it can work its magic;
  • and/or ‘self-pleasure’ – where you use the toy to bring yourself to orgasm.

Enjoy!

Sex toys for disabled people

Female masturbators
Clip vibrators - for mostly stimulating the clitoris
Ida from Lelo - A clip that vibrates and rotates simultaneously, stimulating the vagina and clitoris.
It's remote-controlled, but can be a little bit difficult to use.
Suitable for:
− Assisted masturbation when attached inside your pants.
− Self-pleasure with a remote control if you have reduced hand function.
Rechargeable.
We-vibe 4 - A clip that doesn’t rotate, like Ida, but is very powerful and slightly less complicated.
It's more suited to clitoris than vaginal stimulation and holds itself in place very well when inserted.
It's remote-controlled and easy to operate if you have some hand function.
Suitable for:
− Assisted masturbation when attached inside your pants.
− Self-pleasure with remote control some finger function.
Rechargeable.
Rabbits – for both clitoris and vaginal stimulation
Lovehoney Desire Rabbit - For some, rabbits work wonders, while for others, they're confusing.
This one is well-built, smooth and has good proportions. But the buttons are a bit stiff.
It's 10 inches/25cm long.
Suitable for:
− Assisted masturbation when held in placed with pillows or strapped on.
− Self-pleasure - due to its length, it could work for people with some finger/arm mobility.
Rechargeable.
SVAKOM Barbara Rabbit - Dual independent motors for G-spot and clitoral stimulation.
The buttons are a little tricky to operate and, for most disabled people, it's a bit short for self-use (7.3 inches/18cm long).
Suitable for:
− Assisted masturbation when held in placed with pillows or strapped on.
Rechargeable and waterproof.
Lovehoney Jessica Thrusting Rabbit - This rabbit thrusts, rotates and vibrates all at the same time.
It's 11 inches/28cm long and has accessible buttons.
Suitable for:
− Assisted masturbation when held in placed with pillows or strapped on.
− Self-pleasure - due to its length and accessible buttons, it could work for people with some finger/arm mobility.
Waterproof.
Vaginal vibrators
LELO Mona Wave Dual-action - Lelo is expensive, but worth it.
It's a vibrator with gentle, wavy 'come here movements' that aim to massage the G-spot.
It can be used for clitoral stimulation as well.
Suitable for:
− Assisted masturbation once it's inserted as it holds inside well.
Rechargeable and waterproof.
Je Joue G-Kii Bendable G Spot Vibrator - Adjustable so can reach the G-spot at the entrance to the vagina. It can also be transformed into a dual-action toy, allowing for simultaneous G-spot and clitoral stimulation.
It does take some strength and finger mobility to operate.
Suitable for:
− Assisted masturbation once placed and adjusted it will pretty much hold itself.
Rechargeable and waterproof.
Panty play
Love to Love Secret Panty - There are better bullets out there, but here you get a cheap, ready-to-go package with a panty bullet and remote. It may be a bit tricky to hit the precise spot though.
Suitable for:
− Self-pleasure once you have the knickers on and if you can operate the remote.
Battery charged.
Secrets Plus Size Remote Control Vibrating Panties- Remote-controlled vibrating panties.
Ergonomic vibrating bullet for better contact and comfort. It also has a single-button remote, so is easy to operate.
Suitable for:
− Assisted masturbation once in your panties.
− Self-pleasure once you have the knickers on and if you can operate the remote.
Battery charged.
Adrien Lastic Mr Hook Panty Vibrator - Ergonomic design for dual G-spot and clitoral stimulation.
It also has a silent motor.
Suitable for:
− Assisted masturbation as it's easy to fit and adjust.
− Self-pleasure once you have the knickers on and if you can operate the remote.
Rechargeable and waterproof.
Mimi from Je Joue - Powerful clitoral vibrator shaped like a flat egg.
Je Joue, in general, is top quality with deeper and slower vibrations than some others.
The buttons are a but tight, but it has a lot of features and very smooth material
Suitable for:
− Assisted masturbation once in your panties.
− Self-pleasure if you are able to put your knickers on yourself.
Rechargeable.
Vibease Bluetooth Erotica vibrator - Hands-free massager that fits perfectly in the panties and can be controlled with your smartphone or tablet.
Suitable for:
− Assisted masturbation once in your panties.
− Self-pleasure if you are able to put your on knickers yourself.
Wireless and USB rechargeable.
Club Vibe 2.OH from Ohmybod -Remote-controlled vibrator with a number of settings, which might make it too complicated for some.
It fits perfectly in panties, although the material is not for all.
Suitable for:
− Assisted masturbation once in your panties.
− Self-pleasure if you are able to put on your knickers yourself.
Wireless and USB rechargeable.
Other clitoral vibrators
R1 Starter set from Rends - A fantastic, very powerful bullet with a remote control, but the bullet is not wireless. The remote is very simple to operate, but requires a little finger mobility.
Like all bullets, the vibrations are very local, so it may be difficult to hit the right spot.
Suitable for:
− Assisted masturbation once in your panties.
− Self-pleasure when in place and operated by the remote.
Battery charged.
Hello touch finger vibrator from JimmyJane - Small vibrators for the fingertips, meaning you just have to position your fingers on your clit.
The fingers can get a bit numb after a while, and the vibrations a bit fizzy. But it works for some.
Suitable for:
− Self-pleasure if you have reduced hand or arm function, as long as you can reach your clitoris.
Battery charged.
I rub my Duckie - Almost a gimmick, but works well enough to stimulate.
Very easy to operate as it only has one setting - on or off. Good for places where discreteness is required (such as public facilities or care homes).
Suitable for:
− Self-pleasure for those with learning disabilities as they may find it less intimidating.
Battery charged.
Magic Wands (mostly clitoral stimulation)
Hitachi Magic Wand Rechargeable - The original wand, now cordless.
Made for deep muscular massage - you will feel the vibrations even if you are not able to reach clitoris for direct stimulation. Accessories for penetration and for penile stimulation are available.
It's 33cm/13 inches long, and simple to operate as the buttons are in a good position.
Suitable for:
− Assisted masturbation when held in place with pillows.
− Self-pleasure - due to its length it may work for people with short or twisted arms.
− Strapped to bed laying on the stomach or on the side for better positioning.
Rechargeable.
Lelo Magic Wand Rechargeable - Made for deep muscular massage.
It has very deep vibrations and is curved, so easier to reach. It has a silky surface and is 30 cm/11.8 inches long. Accessories for penetration and for penile stimulation are available.
Suitable for:
− Assisted masturbation when held in place with pillows.
− Self-pleasure - due to its length it may work for people with short or twisted arms.
− Strapped to bed laying on the stomach or on the side for better positioning.
Rechargeable and waterproof.
Bodywand G-Spot Wand Attachment - Silicone attachment for G-spot stimulation.
Easy to attach, use and clean.
Suitable for:
− Assisted masturbation when held in place with pillows.
− Self-pleasure - due to its length it may work for people with short or twisted arms.
Waterproof.
Male masturbators
Cobra from Fun Factory - Only the tip of penis needs to be inserted into this.
It sucks more than it vibrates, so remember lube. If held in place, it will almost certainly provide pleasure.
Suitable for:
− Assisted masturbation when held in place with pillows.
Rechargeable
IMTOY Piu Male Masturbator: Mal vibrator– Made for the whole length of the penis, but it will work well on the tip of the penis, too. Can be used with an app and syncs with pre-selected videos. It's not for every shape and size, just smaller sizes.
Suitable for:
− Assisted masturbation when held in place with pillows.
Rechargeable and waterproof.
Green Hornet from Lumunu - Comes with a suction cup to affix to a surface and is perfect for in the shower. Although it vibrates, the vibrations are weak, so you will probably need to thrust to get the max out of it. You'll also need plenty of lube.
Suitable for:
− Self-pleasure for people who can’t reach, but have the ability to thrust.
− People who feel uncomfortable touching their penis (like those with Autism or cognitive impairments).
Battery charged and waterproof.
Cyclone R1 from Rends - A bit outdated, but still the father of male hands-free masturbators.
It's operated by a remote control and rotates rather than 'strokes'.
You'll need lots of lube and you can buy suction cups and extensions. It is noisy as hell.
Suitable for:
− Assisted masturbation when placed through the pee hole in your briefs or held in place with pillows.
Battery charged.
Apollo Hydro Power Stroker - Male masturbator with a detachable suction cup, so is ideal for fitting in the shower.
It does a better job of hands-free stimulation than The Green Hornet. It has a removable textured sleeve lined with a plethora of jelly stimulators. You'll need plenty of lube for it.
Suitable for:
− Assisted masturbation when held in place with pillows.
− Self-pleasure for people with some hand ability.
− People who feel uncomfortable touching their penis (like those with Autism or cognitive impairments).
Waterproof.
Hot Octopuss pulse II duo from Pulse - So simple, yet very effective.
Although it's made for holding, it will stay in place with a supportive pillow underneath. It's suitable for all lengths and girths and is very well built. Again, you'll need to use lube.
Suitable for:
− Assisted masturbation once slid onto the penis.
− Self-pleasure if you can hold your hands in position, but not able to make the moves needed.
Rechargeable
Lovehoney Hummer Male Masturbator Wand Attachment - Transmitting vibrations through its ridges and nodules to stimulate the penis.
It's designed to fit wand vibrators with a 7.5inch head circumference. It's 1.5inch and has a 0.5inch canal. It's easy to attach and clean after use.
Suitable for:
− Assisted masturbation once slid onto the penis.
− Self-pleasure once your penis is inside and you can hold the wand yourself.

By Tuppy Owens

If you’ve got a question for Tuppy and would like her help, please email her: AuntyTuppy@Outsiders.org.uk

Outsiders is a FREE social, peer support and dating club, run by and for socially and physically disabled people. Its members have a wide range of impairments, including visual and hearing impairment. 

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