Dating is scary in its own right. Putting yourself out there in the first place and dealing with rejections can be quite intimidating. But admittedly, it gets even trickier when you have a disability. The level of self-consciousness can be higher to start with, and rejection can give you a dose of insecurity about who you are. To help you shake off the knock backs, Meet Disabled Singles has four tips to help you stay positive while searching for your perfect partner.
Don’t take it personally
It’s easy to think ‘it is me who is being rejected, how can I not take it personally?’ Well, you also need to consider the person who is doing the rejecting. Firstly, you might simply not ‘click’ or quite fit what they’re looking for – and that is no one’s fault, it happens sometimes.
However, if your date looks down on you or is scared by your disability, then they are not right for you either. In this case, it is not personal – they are the ones who are unable to cope with the given situation.
Remember that each person has their own issues and insecurities, disability or not. That is how you should approach rejection.
Talk openly with the person after the rejection
This might seem very hard, but as they say – the truth will set you free – and in this case, it is more than applicable. Discuss the reasons for the rejection, and be open about it.
You’ll be able to understand whether your disability was the only issue because, no matter how polite the person sitting across the table from you is, they won’t be able to hide it.
However, there is a good chance that it might be that you are not compatible based on your character traits or views on life in general. But you won’t know that unless you talk about it.
Don’t get discouraged
This is the most important thing. We all tend to go to that bad place after a rejection. It usually goes something like, “I was rejected again. No one will ever love me. I’m going to be alone forever.” That is a mindset you should definitely stay away from.
First of all, remember that you are a strong individual who is more than capable of loving and being loved. Rejection simply means that you haven’t found the right person yet.
Use dating experiences as lessons
The one thing you can do after an unsuccessful date is to learn from them. See what went wrong with the last person and what personality traits you might want to consider avoiding in the future. This means that you won’t waste time on a lot of people who are wrong from the start, and instead direct your energy towards those who are deserving.
Don’t focus on the negative or the fact that it didn’t work out. Instead, consider all dates as great training while you wait for the right kind of date to appear.
Believe that you deserve to find love
Dating when you have a disability should not affect your view of yourself or what you deserve to get from a partner. Don’t let the rejections, which are unavoidable in the dating world, slow you down or affect your expectations. Who you are as a person matters the most and that is who the right date will fall in love with.
You need someone who will look past the disability and see the person. Having someone treat you as an equal, regardless of your disability, is what constitutes a solid basis for a good, quality relationship.
You deserve to find the perfect partner and not settle for anything less than that. Your disability does not define you, and if someone can’t see that, then they don’t deserve to be with you, it is as simple as that. So, by getting rejected from such a person, you actually dodged the bullet.
By Meet Disabled Singles
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